Multiple Sclerosis poses new hurdles when it comes to pursuing relationships, especially a romantic one. When you’re dating someone with MS, talking about symptoms is key to having a strong relationship. Going out with someone with MS necessitates communication, but some people may be embarrassed about their disease and their symptoms and will therefore be less likely to talk about it. It will be your job to be supportive and understanding without being overbearing.
Communication
Just as with every other relationship, communication is key when it comes to dating someone with MS. Having to divulge intimate information about yourself can be nerve-wracking, especially if you have a debilitating disease that can change plans and stall romantic evenings. However, once your partner starts talking about their MS it’s important to keep them talking.
Do your research and ask them questions about MS. Because MS affects everyone differently, learn about their specific symptoms and find out ways you can help. The more you know about their daily symptoms and comfort level, the more supportive you can be, and the only way you’ll know is by talking about it.
Going Out
MS may limit the types of activities you can do on your dates, but don’t let it deter the two of you from pursuing new things. If you’re looking to go out for dinner but worried about managing MS symptom outbreak, check out their menu online beforehand to make sure there are diet-friendly items. Make reservations, especially if you need to accommodate for temperature or time of day, so you can get the best seats in the house.
And, as always, group dates can be a ton of fun. Group activities not only mean more friends but also a larger support system. Your date may feel less anxious if she or he has trusted friends nearby to help out in case of mobility issues, fatigue, or other symptom outbreaks.
Intimacy
MS symptoms can affect different daily activities, and sexual intimacy is often one of them. MS changes a body’s physical sensitivity, so stimulations that were once pleasurable may no longer be so. If you and your partner have already or are looking to explore an intimate relationship, being open and up front about what is comfortable and what isn’t is the best approach.
Communicate and try out different things to keep your relationship fun, exciting, and romantic, but be sure not to pressure your partner. Because MS can cause fatigue, physical pain, and depression, they may not always be ready for sexual intimacy. This is why it’s important to find other activities that are intimate without being physical.
In Conclusion
Although the emotional strain of MS can be overwhelming, keeping an open field of communication is key to pursuing a relationship with someone with MS. Being able to discuss symptoms and let these discussions influence dating events and intimate options will only help strengthen your relationship over time. There is no reason to be ashamed of MS, and there is no reason to let it overpower your relationship. When you go out with someone with MS, talk often and enjoy activities that are comfortable for the both of you.