Intimacy is about more than sex; it’s the connecting of two people on all levels - physical, emotional, intellectual, and even spiritual. Even couples who don’t face the challenge of MS struggle with maintaining intimacy, but dealing with MS can make matters worse. Although MS may change the dynamics of your intimacy, it doesn’t have to break down your relationship. As a matter of fact, you may find that dealing with MS as a team helps you grow closer together.
Read on for what you need to know about MS and intimacy.
It’s About More Than Sex
MS doesn’t just affect your sex life. It can affect other areas of intimacy as well. One partner may start feeling more like a caregiver than a lover; the other may lose self confidence because of the help that they need. Shifting roles are difficult to navigate, and it is crucial that partners communicate with one another about their needs. MS brings up difficult conversations about your dreams and future as well as your daily life. By addressing these conversations together, you can grow closer as you tackle the challenge of MS.
MS and Sex
10% of all people struggle with sex in one way, and reports of sexual issues are even higher among patients with MS and their partners. MS can affect the body’s sexual responses, including vaginal lubrication, erection, and sexual sensation. It is important that you spend time with your own body to understand the changes that are taking place. Then, share those changes with your partner and if necessary, your doctor.
Feeling Sexy
When sex takes a hit in a relationship, individuals may blame themselves, drawing in rather than reaching out. Instead, be open about your needs and get creative in order to meet them. If what you are doing right now doesn’t do it, try something else. Sex doesn’t have to be just about intercourse. There are plenty of aids, tips, and toys that can help you spice things up. Most importantly, help your partner understand that it is not his or her fault. Take time to bolster your partner’s confidence, and show your love however you can.This is one of the conversations that can be the hardest for couples, but talking about it is necessary to maintain intimacy - physical and emotional.
MS can’t rob you of your intimacy, but it can lead to some difficult conversations. Couples who address these challenges head on together can grow closer to one another, increasing the intimacy in their relationship while maintaining a positive sex life.